{"id":4773,"date":"2019-03-04T23:50:10","date_gmt":"2019-03-04T18:05:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/?p=4773"},"modified":"2019-12-21T16:11:20","modified_gmt":"2019-12-21T10:26:20","slug":"two-kinds-of-lovers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/2019\/03\/04\/two-kinds-of-lovers\/","title":{"rendered":"Two kinds of lovers"},"content":{"rendered":"<span class=\"rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\">2<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span><h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">Space &#8211; Siv Jakobsen<\/h1>\n<p><iframe title=\"Siv Jakobsen - Space\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/k3fRvQtgjnM?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>There is no pain in falling in love. There&#8217;s a phenomenal <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Honeymoon-Effect-Science-Creating-Heaven\/dp\/1401923895\">honeymoon effect<\/a> <\/em>rolling.<\/p>\n<p>Well, real and slow and debilitating pain is an aftermath of love <strong>falling<\/strong> apart,<\/p>\n<p>of numbing heart ache,<\/p>\n<p>of shit hitting the fan.<\/p>\n<p>Now, in your path to a love life.<\/p>\n<p>There you&#8217;ll meet two kinds of lovers.<\/p>\n<p>One, would promise to move mountains to make it up to you.<\/p>\n<p>Or, the ones who would promise to just be,\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0(Gasping)&#8230; just be by your side through all thick and thins (Sure,<em><b> by virtue of persistent conducts and behaviors.)<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n<p>One would seek compatibility, security, or say in broader spectrum <em><strong>&#8216;the future&#8217;<\/strong><\/em> before diving in.<\/p>\n<p>Or, the ones who would choose a choice to love you without any pre-conditions.<\/p>\n<p>One, who are so full of riches &#8212; emotionally and empathetically.<\/p>\n<p>Or, the ones who treats you as they please. <strong><em>(Sometimes as lovers. Sometimes as paltry disposables.)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>One, who&#8217;s a go-getter, party harder.<\/p>\n<p>Or, the kinds who would rather cuddle you to sleep, at night.<\/p>\n<p>And above all, &#8230;<\/p>\n<p>you&#8217;ll most likely meet the ones, who would drain you by asking, asking and more of asking.<\/p>\n<p>Or, someone who <strong>gives.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 .\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 .<\/h1>\n<p>Thanks to this humble <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/sauravithp\/\">girl<\/a> who introduced me to a movie <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=ZrVIhNkOA64\">The perks of being a wallflower<\/a>\u00a0<\/em> \u00a0&#8212; and now, freely stealing a fraction of lines from the same movie;<\/p>\n<p><strong><span class=\"character\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.imdb.com\/name\/nm0503567\/?ref_=tt_ch\">Charlie\u00a0<\/a>:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Mr. Anderson? Can I ask you something?<\/p>\n<p><strong><span class=\"character\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.imdb.com\/name\/nm0748620\/?ref_=tt_ch\">Bill\u00a0<\/a>:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Yeah.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span class=\"character\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.imdb.com\/name\/nm0503567\/?ref_=tt_ch\">Charlie\u00a0<\/a>:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Why do nice people choose the wrong people to date?<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"character\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.imdb.com\/name\/nm0748620\/?ref_=tt_ch\">Bill\u00a0<\/a>:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span>Are we talking about anyone specific?<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"fine\">[Charlie nods]\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><span class=\"character\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.imdb.com\/name\/nm0748620\/?ref_=tt_ch\">Bill\u00a0<\/a>:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Well, <strong>we accept the love we think we deserve.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><span class=\"character\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.imdb.com\/name\/nm0503567\/?ref_=tt_ch\">Charlie\u00a0<\/a>:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Can we make them know that they deserve more?<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"character\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.imdb.com\/name\/nm0748620\/?ref_=tt_ch\">Bill\u00a0<\/a>:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span>We can try.<\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 .\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 .<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Relatable!?<\/p>\n<p>Closing thoughts : In the language of\u00a0Barry Schwartz from his classic book on choices, <strong>The Paradox of Choice,\u00a0<\/strong>He says:<\/p>\n<blockquote id=\"1a43\" class=\"graf graf--pullquote graf--startsWithDoubleQuote graf-after--p\"><p>\u201cLearning to choose is hard. Learning to choose well is harder. And learning to choose well in a world of unlimited possibilities is harder still, perhaps too\u00a0hard.\u201d &#8211; The Paradox of Choice, <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/barrysch\">Barry Schwartz<\/a>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Free, hard to chew, unsolicited advice and this is very<strong> very important<\/strong> &#8212; Choose, &#8230; choose\u00a0<strong>the ones\u00a0<\/strong>who&#8217;re\u00a0somewhere around the <em>gray<\/em>. The likes of an oscillating pendulum, who bounces back and forth between the edges, to survive and for survival. The ones who finds love and purpose around the delicate balance of imperfections and <strong>work on it through and through.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\">2<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span> Space &#8211; Siv Jakobsen There is no pain in falling in love. There&#8217;s a phenomenal honeymoon effect rolling. Well, real and slow and debilitating pain&#8230;<\/p>\n<div class=\"more-link-wrapper\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/2019\/03\/04\/two-kinds-of-lovers\/\">Continue Reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Two kinds of lovers<\/span><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[5],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4773"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4773"}],"version-history":[{"count":24,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4773\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5662,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4773\/revisions\/5662"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4773"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4773"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4773"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}