{"id":6528,"date":"2021-02-11T23:34:05","date_gmt":"2021-02-11T17:49:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/?p=6528"},"modified":"2021-02-15T11:44:58","modified_gmt":"2021-02-15T05:59:58","slug":"dont-be-a-caged-bird","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/2021\/02\/11\/dont-be-a-caged-bird\/","title":{"rendered":"Don&#8217;t be a caged bird."},"content":{"rendered":"<span class=\"rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\">2<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-style-large\"><p>\u201cIt is not\u00a0<strong>things<\/strong>\u00a0that upset us, but our\u00a0<strong>judgements<\/strong>\u00a0about those\u00a0<strong>things<\/strong>.\u201d \u2014 Epictitus<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-youtube alignwide wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Sasha Sloan - Dancing With Your Ghost (Lyric Video)\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Qzc_aX8c8g4?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><figcaption><sup>Sasha Sloan &#8211; Dancing With Your Ghost<\/sup><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>We have a unique <strong>obsession with the past. <\/strong>Don&#8217;t we all?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The &#8216;<em>gone<\/em> <em>episodes of life<\/em>&#8216;, both <em>Good<\/em> and <em>Bad<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Surprisingly, <strong>The Bad Ones<\/strong> tend to stick with us for a longer period of time. And, in worst cases even leading us to chronic depression or nihilism, even suicides.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We also have list of vocabularies to describe these things of the past &#8212; we call them Events. Moments. Memories, or &#8216;Stories&#8217; and &#8216;Snaps&#8217; created over our beloved social media bubble.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>But, most of all, we all have that <strong>persistent, <strong>whispering<\/strong>, irritating, <strong>excruciating<\/strong> and looping &#8216;Voice&#8217; in our head<\/strong> which keeps on poking and scratching and tingling and pinching at the specific events of those bygone days. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Days<\/strong> we will never, ever re-live. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Moments<\/strong>, we can never go back to and redo shits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Memories<\/strong>, we so deliberately choose to get stuck onto, loop over and over only to accept at the end &#8212; that it&#8217;s completely out of our hands. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\"><p><em><strong>Brain-vomits like:<\/strong><\/em><\/p><p>I had the worst day of my life. <\/p><p>That boy cheated on me; broke my trust and left me alone to suffer &#8212; destroying my life altogether. <\/p><p>That last office I worked at was a total garbage and the acquaintances! &#8212; I don&#8217;t even want to talk about them. It was an utter waste of time.<\/p><p>My last boss really took a great deal of advantage out of my loyalty and honestly. What a piece of jerk!<\/p><p>Things like :- Oh! I should have done this. I should&#8217;ve not done that. <\/p><p>Wishful chatters like: I wish things had turned out this way or that way or easy way or my way!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-larger-font-size\">Holy <strong>Fish!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>You see, there&#8217;s just no limit to our wild imagination of carefully nitpicking our past craps or state of affairs  &#8212; that we think didn&#8217;t go well or go as we expected. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Consequently, and unwillingly having ourselves dragged into a good, shitty, deep spiral road-trip down the rabbit hole of despair, of doubts, of restlessness, of utter pain and <strong>fucked questions!<\/strong> Eventually, turning us Pro at crying, whining, complaining, blaming and worst &#8212; an acting <strong>victim!<\/strong> With of course a collateral damage of having to carry an infested skull full of resentments and dissatisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-large-font-size\"><strong>Holy Fish!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, antidote?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Please, on\u2019t beat yourself up for things beyond this moment, beyond your control&nbsp;and more importantly don&#8217;t be a caged bird! (I hope you get the metaphor)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rather, acknowledge the devil &#8212; which are your own thoughts and decisively turn introspective by meditating over&nbsp;<strong>meaningful questions<\/strong>&nbsp;(metaphorically speaking) instead of subscribing to subjective, non-sensical, baseless, one-sided monkey chatter. (Trust me, I&#8217;m guilty of this myself.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yes &#8212; Simple, profound, weighty&nbsp;<strong>questions like<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Could it have been worst?<\/li><li>What&#8217;s the lesson I could learn in the situation?<\/li><li>What&#8217;s the path forward from here?<\/li><li>Where do I see myself 72 hours from now &#8230;. 3 months from now,  a year from now, 2 years from now?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>can save your day!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Namaste.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\">2<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span> \u201cIt is not\u00a0things\u00a0that upset us, but our\u00a0judgements\u00a0about those\u00a0things.\u201d \u2014 Epictitus We have a unique obsession with the past. Don&#8217;t we all? The &#8216;gone episodes of&#8230;<\/p>\n<div class=\"more-link-wrapper\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/2021\/02\/11\/dont-be-a-caged-bird\/\">Continue Reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Don&#8217;t be a caged bird.<\/span><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[82,89],"tags":[23],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6528"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6528"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6528\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6535,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6528\/revisions\/6535"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6528"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6528"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6528"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}