{"id":4969,"date":"2019-05-16T21:35:08","date_gmt":"2019-05-16T15:50:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/?p=4969"},"modified":"2019-06-06T23:57:19","modified_gmt":"2019-06-06T18:12:19","slug":"its-okay-even-if-you-fail","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/2019\/05\/16\/its-okay-even-if-you-fail\/","title":{"rendered":"Fail better"},"content":{"rendered":"<span class=\"rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\">4<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span><h1 class=\"title style-scope ytd-video-primary-info-renderer\" style=\"text-align: center;\">Vintage Culture, Bruno Be &amp; Ownboss &#8211; Intro Rework<\/h1>\n<p><iframe width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/0gx46AlY758?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>She asked, &#8220;How to be confident?&#8221;. I asked only two things of her. Two maxims per se. One, <strong>Be comfortable with the uncomfortable<\/strong>. And two, <strong>don&#8217;t fret, be fiercely fearless as you walk down the alley of the unknown<\/strong>. This is how you best exercise your <strong>confidence<\/strong> muscle.<\/p>\n<p>What I had missed was, &#8220;Confidence is also about digesting lucrative <strong>failures<\/strong> and\/ or <strong>rejections<\/strong>. Meaning, confidence is a wise failure in disguise. Meaning, to be confident, you learn to befriend failure. Not shrug if off your shoulder or wry but have failures be that combusting fuel propelling you at rocket speed each time you take one.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 1.0625em;\">Following essay by <\/span><em style=\"font-size: 1.0625em;\">Adam Gottesfeld<\/em><span style=\"font-size: 1.0625em;\"> from Princeton University precisely encapsulates this idea than any other. Have a great time!<\/span><\/p>\n<div>\n<pre style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Fail Better<\/strong> BY ADAM GOTTESFELD<\/pre>\n<\/div>\n<p>MOST PRINCETON students love to procrastinate in writing their dean\u2019s date [term] papers. Ryan Marrinan \u201907, from Los Angeles, was no exception. But while the majority of undergraduates fill their time by updating their Facebook profiles or watching videos on YouTube, Marrinan was discussing Soto Zen Buddhism via e-mail with Randy Komisar, a partner\u00a0at the venture capital firm Kleiner Perkins Caufield and Byers, and asking Google CEO Eric Schmidt via e-mail when he had been happiest in his life. (Schmidt\u2019s answer: \u201cTomorrow.\u201d)<\/p>\n<p>Prior to his e-mail, Marrinan had never contacted Komisar. He had met Schmidt, a Princeton University trustee, only briefly at an academic affairs meeting of the trustees in November. A self-described \u201cnaturally shy kid,\u201d Marrinan said he would never have dared to randomly e-mail two of the most powerful men in Silicon Valley if it weren\u2019t for Tim Ferriss, who offered a guest lecture in Professor Ed Zschau\u2019s \u201cHigh-Tech Entrepreneurship\u201d class. Ferriss challenged Marrinan and his fellow seniors to contact high-profile celebrities and CEOs and get their answers to questions they have always wanted to ask.<\/p>\n<p>For extra incentive, Ferriss promised the student who could contact the most hard-to-reach name and ask the most intriguing question a round-trip plane ticket anywhere in the world.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI believe that success can be measured in the number of uncomfortable conversations you\u2019re willing to have. I felt that if I could help students overcome the fear of rejection with cold-calling and cold e-mail, it would serve them forever,\u201d Ferriss said. \u201cIt\u2019s easy to sell yourself short, but when you see classmates getting responses from people like [former president] George Bush, the CEOs of Disney, Comcast, Google, and HP, and dozens of other impossible-to-reach people, it forces you to reconsider your self-set limitations.\u201d \u2026 Ferriss lectures to the students of \u201cHigh-Tech Entrepreneurship\u201d each semester about creating a startup and designing the ideal lifestyle.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI participate in this contest every day,\u201d said Ferriss. \u201cI do what I always do: find a personal e-mail if possible, often through their little-known personal blogs, send a two- to three-paragraph e-mail which explains that I am familiar with their work, and ask one simple-to-answer but thought-provoking question in that e-mail related to their work or life philosophies. The goal is to start a dialogue so they take the time to answer future e-mails\u2014not to ask for help. That can only come after at least three or four genuine e-mail exchanges.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>With \u201ctextbook execution of the Tim Ferriss Technique,\u201d as he put it, Marrinan was able to strike up a bond with Komisar. In his initial e-mail, he talked about reading one of Komisar\u2019s Harvard Business Review articles and feeling inspired to ask him, \u201cWhen were you happiest in your life?\u201d After Komisar replied with references to Tibetan Buddhism, Marrinan responded, \u201cJust as words are inadequate to explain true\u00a0happiness, so too are words inadequate to express my thanks.\u201d His e-mail included his personal translation of a French poem by Taisen Deshimaru, the former European head of Soto Zen. An e-mail relationship was formed, and Komisar even e-mailed Marrinan a few days later with a link to a New York Times article on happiness.<\/p>\n<p>Contacting Schmidt proved more challenging. For Marrinan, the toughest part was getting Schmidt\u2019s personal e-mail address. He e-mailed a Princeton dean asking for it. No response. Two weeks later, he e-mailed the same dean again, defending his request by reminding her that he had previously met Schmidt. The dean said no, but Marrinan refused to give up. He e-mailed her a third time. \u201cHave you ever made an exception?\u201d he asked. The dean finally gave in, he said, and provided him with Schmidt\u2019s e-mail.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI know some of my classmates pursued the alternative scattershot technique with some success, but that\u2019s not my bag,\u201d Marrinan said, explaining his perseverance. \u201cI deal with rejection by persisting, not by taking my business elsewhere. <strong>My maxim comes from Samuel Beckett, a personal hero of mine: \u2018Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.\u2019<\/strong> You won\u2019t believe what you can accomplish by attempting the impossible with the courage to repeatedly fail better.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Nathan Kaplan, another participant in the contest, was most proud of the way that he was able to contact former Newark mayor Sharpe James. Because James had made a campaign contribution to Al Sharpton, the website <a href=\"http:\/\/www.fundrace.org\/\">www.fundrace.org <\/a>listed James\u2019s home address. Kaplan then input James\u2019s address into an online serach-by-address phone directory, through which he received the former mayor\u2019s phone number. Kaplan left a message for James, and a few days later finally got to ask him about childhood education.<\/p>\n<p>Ferriss is proud of the effort students have put into his contest. \u201cMost people can do absolutely awe-inspiring things,\u201d he said.<strong> \u201cSometimes they just need a little nudge.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\">4<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span> Vintage Culture, Bruno Be &amp; Ownboss &#8211; Intro Rework She asked, &#8220;How to be confident?&#8221;. I asked only two things of her. Two maxims per&#8230;<\/p>\n<div class=\"more-link-wrapper\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/2019\/05\/16\/its-okay-even-if-you-fail\/\">Continue Reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Fail better<\/span><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[5],"tags":[54,55],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4969"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4969"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4969\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4985,"href":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4969\/revisions\/4985"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4969"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4969"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bijays.com.np\/musicpervs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4969"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}