When I was perhaps in my mid 10’s, computers fascinated me, although we didn’t have one in our house. The few that were available in our computer lab back at school, the one that my friend owned — were sort of my crush(es).
I vividly remember: I had my first desktop PC of my own during the 1st year of my undergraduate degree and there — I was hooked to this beautiful work of art. You see, it’s the same computer from which I opened my first Blogspot.
Likewise, I had my first laptop after I completed my 2nd year. Again, I fell more and more in love with her. You see, there’s this sweet reminiscent of Manish and I bringing this baby home the first time on that evening and unpacking her with pure delight.
God!
I can only wish if I can forever have that beautiful Aha! feeling — every single day of my life!
“With internet porn, a guy can see more hot babes in 10 minutes than his ancestors could see in several lifetimes.” ~ Gary Wilson
Laree Choote – Call The Band
Our generation unlike the ones before us: We already have a crazy mountain of ‘social media addiction ‘ that we are to manage, climb and conquer.
What about the not-so-new, not un-known elephant in the room — Porn!
What about, once a thriving relationship now turned tasteless; Malnourished on togetherness, care, and intimacy?
What about, ones a seemingly bright ‘future’ of relationship but now convoluted by compulsive, manipulated, uncontrollable, enslaved — pornified ‘present’?
What about porn and our journey with it?
I can’t say it any other way:
Porn —isdestroying us.
Sure, it’s evident that the world is darn confused and divided on Pornography. There’s no doubt about that.
NoFap Movement. Anti-NoFap Movement.
Circus!
One side says that it’s cool and natural and harmless and healthy (if done ‘enough‘, I mean really WTFridge!). Contrarily, the other side has its reservations, especially because of its chronic addictive nature fueled by its limitless and unprecedented ease of access to just about anyone who has figured out the www.
Porn?
Porn!
No Porn?
No Porn!
Dilemma.
Reasonably, it’s a choice. Whence, take it with a grain of salt and — do wisely pick your side.
Because, for those on the ‘yea’ spectrum (meaning, ‘yes’ for porn), rest assured — it comes with a price. Likewise, for those on the ‘nay’ side of the matter (meaning, ‘no’ for porn), have patience — it will pay off in the long run.
That’s a fact!
To add more: Understand that never like anytime before — porn has gotten more and more advance and powerful year after year and at the same time making us more and more powerless. Or precisely, the slaves per se! Hungry for the ever-draining dopamine and serotonin pump.
Understand that porn is probably the worst companion to your boon of boredom. And, that this instantaneously gratifyingmasturbation, fapping, jerking-off, or whatever you like to call it — is making you more lonely, intrinsically lustful, and in short an expensive waste!
Understand that — Intentionality. Real & profound relationships. Deliberate thinking. Perpetual learning. Growing. Bearing responsibility. Harnessing boredom — these … these are few key life’s muscles we all ought to build up and must work upon to merely throwing ourselves into mindless, pathological, wishful, lustful, and wasteful porn-infested life.
For a clear perspective on Porn, I present to you a few priceless gems (by some of the people I look up to) — which otherwise would’ve been easily ignored on the internet :
Joe Rogan | Modern Struggle is Fighting Media Addiction w/Naval Ravikat
Think Different ~ Advertisement slogan of Apple Computer Inc 1997-2002
Tanmaya Bhatnagar – I Can’t Go Back To Sleep
18+ Content. So, if you’re under-aged ….
It doesn’t matter.
I’ve never watched Nicki Minaj’s Anaconda video before [Link here] . But today I definitely took some time and gave it a shot from beginning through to the end, seconds-by-seconds, and frame-by-frame.
It was deliberate!
I didn’t watch it the second time though.
It was also deliberate.
The Why?
Thanks to an hour long, thought provoking and a brilliant conversation between Chris Williamson and Douglas Murray in Chris’s own podcast named ‘Modern Wisdom’ on a topic — ‘The Price Of Thinking Out Loud’ [Link here].
Here’s a short video snippet on ‘Anaconda’ from the podcast (video-form).
Well, a wise man once said, “You cannot un-see what you’ve seen.”
and likely so, Anaconda will never be the same for me again.
Namaste.
p.s.
Douglas Murray — an author of ‘The Madness of Crowds: Gender, Race and Identity’ among many other best selling books — to me, is one of the world-class, prominent thinkers of our generation.
“Just that you do the right thing. The rest doesn’t matter.
Cold or warm. Tired or well-rested. Despised or honored. Dying … or busy with other assignments.
Because dying, too, is one of our assignments in life. There as well: “to do what needs doing.” ~ Marcus Aurelius (Meditation)
BOB DYLAN – Mr Tambourine Man
‘Memento Mori’ medallion by Ryan Holiday lays on my work desk as I start my Work From Home Office day.
Plus, every night before I go to bed, I bring the coin with me. Play with her for a while and finally, finally tuck her underneath my pillow just before I pass out.
To me, doing this has become like a weird ritual.
To me, it’s one of the most important discovery of my life!
Sure, I’ve written in length about this Latin phrase — quite a lot really [see this]; Which simply meant,
“Remember, you will die!“
Well, here’s the cookie in the jar; this mere $26.00 metal or say my metaphorical friend at the moment with ‘Memento Mori’ etched on it — clearly, rightfully, and bravely demands;
“Stop whatever you’re doing for a moment and ask yourself: Am I afraid of death because I won’t be able to do this anymore?” —Marcus Aurelius
Don’t Let It Pass – Junip
On June 01, 2021 — Ujjwal dai passed away because of covid complications. And, like many were, I was too fornicated mentally when i saw the news of his demise floating over the web like wildfire.
And naturally, I was thrown aback to my first and perhaps one of those weirdest and naive conversations that only my 19/20 years old would produce.
My first message to Ujwal dai. He was sweet enough to answer and point me to the right stuff.
My final follow up message threads. He was again kind and considerate enough to point this lost, seemingly weird, cum an unknown strange boy to the right direction.
The thing was,
I was scouring wildly out on the internet looking for the must-visit places in Nepal and gracefully did stumble upon his nice blog-post on the same along with some really beautiful photographs of Manang (if i recollect right).
2011- we were neither friends on Facebook or any other social media platforms. I didn’t know him personally. And, never have we met either. But yes, I wrote to him, shamelessly! With young-silly spirited blood, I reckon.
And for that, I will forever have a bellyful of laughter because of this weird stunt that feebly connected me to him.
Again, looking back:
I like his blog decorum. Specially for it’s true relevance, the usefulness and a simplicity. Which still stands true till date.
Second, I’ve always adored his simple English vocabs, on each one of his publications. I clearly remember, back in the days, I was trying to improve my writing skill (or whatever you call it) by looking at — how he used to write his.
Furthermore, at around 2013, I ran into one of the video he had published on YouTube which I happily put on my 2015’s earthquake self-reflection diary. I had only one goal in my mind then — to communicate message of hope.
Similarly, I looked up to him for his profound intellect-ism (because he for sure knew his shits well)
Without a doubt, his noble pieces and fragments will forever stay with me for the rest of my life!
With due sincerity, I truly am not enjoying typing this eulogy-type thing.
